April 5, 2009

Sunday Surf - Sunshine Cleaning

I had a busy weekend. Friday night I went dancing at Tracks for the monthly First Friday party put on by BAD. Saturday night I had a friend and her mom over for dinner. And today I went to see Sunshine Cleaning while Tucker went to the groomer's. So working backwards from today, I'll start with the movie. It stars Amy Adams and Emily Blunt and has gotten mixed reviews, though mostly good ones. I thought it was very good. Definitely worth the price of a matinee admission ($7.00), but don't buy the LARGE soda. You won't last...heh.

Anyway, I'd been asking a friend of mine to go see Sunshine Cleaning with me over the past few weeks. She said she could plan for today. What she really meant, she needed time to round up a few more people so it wouldn't be like a date. Oh well. She invited Amy's mom to come see it with us (they're long time friends). Unfortunately, she also thought she might go skiing. I think she must have decided all the recent snow was way too inviting to pass up. And if you like to play Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon, I'm pretty sure I've cut that down to about 4 degrees or less (I've also met Ellen DeGeneres...and I have the autograph to prove it...somewhere...). So I showed up for the movie non-date that I suggested and semi-planned only to pretty much be a third wheel. Yeah, not gonna do that again. I didn't figure on a matinee, while my dog was at the groomer's, as a date anyway...sigh. At least the movie was good!

Saturday one of my good friends (you know, the friend that knows just about everything about you and fights with you like a sister...yeah that one) and her mom came over for lasagna. No, I didn't make it myself. I'm a good cook, but I'm not going to spend that much time on something that you can buy at the grocery already made and ready to bake...heh. Anyway, I figured they might eat and run, but they actually stayed for a couple of hours just chatting away. It was nice. It was also a good excuse to clean my condo and vacuum (until the vacuum belt broke anyway).

Friday night, as I mentioned above, I went to First Friday. My friend Shannon Stone spins Country Western for about 4 hours until 10pm or so. I danced to a couple songs and gave a young friend a two stepping lesson. I think I was pretty successful since she looked pretty smooth later dancing with her girlfriend...of the moment. We danced again later in the main bar to current dance and techno music. My legs are hurting now like they do after a workout with weights. Something about deep knee bends and other dance moves my legs don't normally make at my advanced age...heh.

Which reminds me...while I was chatting with another friend by the bar, I saw a 20 something wearing a t shirt that said: "Cougar Hunter." Sigh. I've noticed for about 10 years or so that young women really are going after older women (well lesbian and bi women anyway...just to clarify). At first I thought it was just an online chat room phenomenon, but more and more, the last year or so, I have noticed that my friends have been dating younger women (by younger I mean more than 10 years younger). Of course, THEN I thought my friends were the ones chasing the younger gals. Nope. It's most definitely the young ladies chasing the older women. Of course, THEN I thought maybe it was just older HOT women. Nope. It's pretty random...which in the grand scheme of things is sorta nice.

But really, I worry about this situation. See women live a lot longer than men, so when older straight women (the original cougars) have younger boyfriends, they might actually live together a really long time before they both die not so far apart in time. On the other hand, if you're say...a 45 year old woman with say a 25 year old girlfriend and you both live until your 80's...well it's not a pretty picture for the younger partner. And today I was catching up with my stack of newspapers and Amy (the advice gal) told one woman to have fun with her younger boyfriend if they were otherwise compatible, but even she hinted at the future possible issues...and the unlikely chance of a long relationships owing to things such as "you mean Paul McCartney was in a group?"...heh. Yeah, that happens to me a lot.... Then I saw another "Cougar Hunter" t shirt today. What? Is the universe sending me a message?

14 comments:

The Gentleman said...

Geez. I think I may have a similar t-shirt stashed somewhere.. As a former 20 something "Couguar Hunter" I have to admit that older women always had a certain appeal to me. (Of course now I'm in a commited relationship with a woman just 1 year older than me... hence the "former" part :)and I have to admit that when you're in love age difference, or lack thereof doesn't matter :D)

What I think I liked most about older women was their self confidence and the fact that you hardly have bad surprises (expecially for one night stands that where my standard anyway) when you go for expertise... if you know what I mean.

TheWeyrd1 said...

So...what you're saying is: young women are USING older women for experience...heh. Actually, I've heard that many many times. In fact, it really begs the question, so after the younger woman BECOMES the experienced one, what's her motivation to stay with the older one!?! My thinking is that it wouldn't be much at that point and the GLARING differences in life experience would become very obvious... Sadly, I tend to think the bigger the gap in age the less likely a long term relationship can occur.

The Gentleman said...

well I can't really bring my experience of long term relationship with older women.. the longer I've lasted in one was little over 8 month and wasn't a commited one anyway, at least for my part anyway.
regardless of what I've said, motivation can be hundreds and more serious than barely using the other as a "training ship"...
you know what.. you should scoop up a twenty something for yourself, give it a spin and then decide for yourself if it was worth it :P :P
PS: You've met Ellen? In person??? you are now my personal hero :)

jennifer from pittsburgh said...

Before I hooked up with MK I was involved with a much younger woman (13yrs younger) and the age difference wasn't the issue. The issue was she was violent. I could definitely see her as a senior citizen clubbing a loved one with her cane someday. Then mocking them for being unconscious.
MK's younger than me too, but only by 4 yrs. Guess that makes her a cougarette hunter ;)

yenbar said...

hey stranger!!..I have been horrible about keeping up with my blogs..and how funny is it that you mention Sunshine Cleaning..I am off today and out the door in a minute or two to go see it..glad to know it is worth it..
I see I have some catching up to do on your posts..should be fun!..I miss visiting all the regular blogs..until next time!

TheWeyrd1 said...

Jennifer...my last gf was about 4 or 5 years younger...can't remember now cause it's been awhile. Prior to that I was the younger gf by about 8 years. But I'm having a hard time with the 15 to 20 year range...just sayin'

Yen! LTNS! Welcome back. Hope you enjoyed the movie!

Jannie Funster said...

I gravitate naturally to older "beings" romantically. Just my preference. There is more to talk about with someone older. And good conversation is very very nice, in my opinion.

Funny, the dance part reminds me of when Jim and I went to a wedding, many many moons ago. We danced like crazy-fools for 4 hours and were sore for A WEEK!!

TheWeyrd1 said...

Jannie...just proving that I'm out of shape. There's a 35 mile bike ride on my birthday at the end of August that I'm considering...

yenbar said...

LTNS?

TheWeyrd1 said...

Yen...Long Time No See....heh.

Jdancer8 said...

Some say those who truthfully and emotionally connect with older people do so because they are an older soul---or spirit...they've been around in a past life and enjoy speaking with those who offer substance and experience in their conversations---I have to say I'm one of those people---however I do tend to slip into my actual age and younger way of thinking sometimes--

As for the universe sending you something I think I should do your cards---tonight?

TheWeyrd1 said...

J...my cards huh!?! And btw, my mom was almost 14 years younger than my dad...she's an old soul, he was a young soul.

citizen of the world said...

The word "cougar" just gripes me. There was never a word for it when men dated younger women, and why is everyone so hung up on who is older than who anyway?

TheWeyrd1 said...

Citizen...I don't like the term "cougar" either. Of course, I have a term for way older men that date younger women (girls). I call them "creepy"! I'm not so hung up on age as having similar life experience...age is just a good gage for figuring the odds!